Our 20th
chapter in #ParentingIntangibleWonder series deals with tantrum and it’s
effect. If you are thinking only children have tantrum and we adults manage
things accordingly, then my friends you are half correct because even adults
have tantrums and kids deal with it. Only difference is that kids can’t manage
or explain us but we as adults manage their tantrums and sometimes play harsh
on their unwanted demands.
Yes, friends it’s only
that adults name their tantrums as habit, behavior, or so called their need to
survive. Lets see few simple situations where we adults show our tantrum triat
as kids.
“Papa, I want to see
princess movie with my friends, please please!” says an eight year old daughter
to her beloved father. To which father says “Last time also we took you for
princess movie, we all get bored in these movies, you can watch cartoons
instead”. And what next daughter
gets annoyed by fathers decision and starts crying to which she hears from
adults of the house is “fulfilling all your wishes is not fair each time”.
After few days a little
change in situation, “Lets go to watch new movie of Transformers, we all will
love it”. Daughter who listens to this says “Papa, I get bored in these movies,
I don’t want to go”. “Oh! Sweety you will get to eat popcorn and ice-cream in
the movie”. To which innocent child agrees.
Here the matter is not
princess vs Transformers but the fact that we adults manipulate kids our kids
and bypass kids wishes as tantrums and name our own tantrums as wishes.
Its same like when adults
do mistake its an error and when kids do its called blunder. We need to be
little considerate towards their wishes and demands; and draw a boundary line
that is followed by each one of the family. We don’t need to mention each of
their demand and wish as a tantrum. Deal with talking and reasoning out, and
its completely okay if you indulge in saying to your kids. They will not be
taken away by your behavior but surely know their limitations and will ask for
stuff that is reasonable.
Hereby and again we
mention that elders play a great role model to the kids, so behave in a manner
that you want child to behave.
Have you ever experienced
an unexpected tantrum by your child or doe your child needs to bear with your
tantrum?
Sharing this post with AtoZ Challenge 2018, Day 20 - Letter T- T for Tantrum
This month we are taking AtoZChallenge with theme #ParentingIntangibleWonder, you can read all our posts of this theme here.
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@Sonal
Love the tantrums
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